How to Make a Long-Distance Relationship Work

Throughout human history, couples have been forced to spend time apart due to a variety of circumstances. Long-distance relationships are understandably tricky, especially when frequent in-person visits are not possible. 

If you’re in a long-distance relationship, there are many things you can do to keep your love strong and relationship healthy. 

Here are some of them. 

Develop Ground Rules

If you and your partner are newly long-distance, establish ground rules for how your relationship will work. 

How will you mutually sustain your sense of closeness and trust? Consider setting daily check-in times for phone or video chats to enable you to feel connected with each other through the miles. 

How much – or how little – do you expect to share your daily activities? Additionally, how much do you expect them to share with you? To avoid accusations of omission, decide early on what your communication and information needs are as individuals and as halves of a couple.

Boost Communication Skills

If you’ve relied primarily on physical closeness to feel emotionally close, you might need to strengthen your verbal and written communication skills. 

You’ll find many self-help books, webinars, and websites to help refresh your interpersonal skills. 

If you both struggle with communicating effectively, consider reading a book or taking a training together on the topic. This will not only help you both gain the skills needed for long-distance loving. It will also demonstrate a mutual commitment to your relationship.

Do Things Together, Apart

Just because you don’t see each other every day doesn’t mean you can’t do things together while you are apart! 

Find a book that interests you both, and take turns reading chapters to each other over the phone. You could also commit to reading each section separately and discussing what you’ve read once or twice per week.

Use Technology to Stay Connected

In this day and age, technology is a long-distance couple’s best friend! Although many couples like to touch bases via phone call or video chat, there are many other options to “be together.” 

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Texting sweet messages and safe-for-work photos to one another throughout the day demonstrates that “out of sight” does not equate to “out of mind.” Share exciting news articles or hilarious jokes with your significant other as you come across them. They’ll appreciate that you thought of them. 

Consider downloading a game app so that you two can play a virtual card, board, word, or other game with one another. Finally, a romantic love letter via email to your sweetheart can be a lovely way to express how deeply you care for them.

Plan Creative Date Nights

Even long-distance couples can still have regular date nights! With the advent of internet streaming services, you can both choose a movie to watch together. Keep each other on speakerphone so you can chat while watching the film. You can also call each other after you are done watching to discuss your thoughts and opinions. 

Cook the same meal in your respective homes, while talking on the phone, and then sit down to a long-distance candlelit dinner for two! For those looking for something a bit spicier, good, old-fashioned phone sex might be just what you need.

Bring Back the Love Letter

When’s the last time you wrote – or received – a love letter in the mail? Or any snail mail, for that matter? 

Most couples turn to email, texting, and video-chats to communicate long-distance. The internet may win hands-down with efficiency and cost. However, it does not always provide the most romantic way to express your feelings. 

Hand-write a love letter to your special someone and send it to them via snail-mail. Although it may take a while before your partner receives the letter, they’re bound to appreciate the time and thought it took to put your feelings on paper. Spritz it with your signature scent before mailing (unless your loved one has allergies). This way, they feel even more connected to you when they open it!

If you are in a long-distance relationship, don’t worry. You can do many things to keep your relationship strong! Although it may take some time to figure out what works for you, just keep on going. Your relationship – and your partner – is worth it!

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