Giving Your Partner The Space They Need
Quality time with your partner is great, especially if you share the same interests. Saturday strolling through the park and having a bite to eat is awesome, but there can also be a downside to being together all the time.
If you feel you have to do everything together with your partner, it will only increase the interdependency. This dynamic can stifle and hinder individual growth.
Experts say that having your own life, outside of your relationship, can actually strengthen the bond with your partner. Spending time on your own or with your own friends and paying attention to your own interests can bring lasting benefits to your relationship.
Why would you want to be dependent on each other when you can also go through life as a power couple?
HERE ARE 5 REASONS WHY MORE SPACE WILL STRENGTHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP:
1. IT ENHANCES ROMANCE
They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder, and this is certainly true. Space gives love a chance.
“A misconception about relationships is that you should always be chained together, but nothing could be further from the truth. If you’re always together, you don’t get the chance to miss and appreciate each other,” says Sophia Reed, a qualified consultant and writer. “Often a little extra space gives you a chance to do this.”
2. AVOID DEPENDENCE AND POSSESSIVENESS
A relationship is great, says Reed, but it’s not a saving grace. As soon as it is, you have a problem because you have become dependent on your partner.
“If the relationship doesn’t end well, the dependent person is at risk of depression because their whole world revolved around their partner,” says Sophia. “Space helps every person stay down to earth and less dependent on each other, which is very healthy.”
3. MORE APPRECIATION FOR YOUR PARTNER
Space in a relationship can be good for couples who take each other for granted. Distance makes you see more clearly what makes your partner so special.
“The reasoning behind this is that it gives you time to learn to appreciate each other more,” explains relationship therapist, Laura Dabney. “If you each have your own interests and spend time separately, it will also make you more aware of each other’s schedules and available time.”
Dabney also says that time for yourself helps to create balanced relationships. “By spending time with yourself, you maintain a sense of identity,” she adds.
4. GET OVER YOUR FEARS
For some, the concept of ‘space’ may sound scary. But the concept is different for each couple. Give your own spin to it!
“Although it can be intimidating, space can greatly strengthen a relationship,” says Gina Marie Guarino, a qualified psychologist. “Space promotes independence and autonomy, reducing the risk of dependency problems. It can also help combat boredom in a relationship, as both partners look forward to spending time with each other.”
6. BE THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF
Space creates the opportunity to pay more attention to yourself and become your best self – for you and your partner.
“Individuals who are well balanced and take time to develop themselves are better partners in a relationship because they realize that they are personally responsible for their own happiness,” says relationship expert, Tiffany Toombs. “By creating time and space for things that make you personally happy, you can better contribute emotionally and spiritually to your partner’s life.