Tony Robbins is no stranger when it comes to setting goals and achieving them. He has written five best-sellers during his career, worked with millions of people at his annual seminars, and coached countless stars, politicians, and athletes. He now runs more than 50 companies with a combined turnover of billions a year.
During his annual seminars and conferences, participants often ask Robbins what his secret is to effectively set his goals and achieve them. “You need a broad vision and a plan that is achievable,” he says briefly.
Many of us start the year with resolutions we want to achieve. But before February even begins, majority have already given up on their good intentions. Now that we’re more than halfway through the year, how are you doing with your goals?
Why do people quickly lose track of their goals?
“Because it wasn’t a real decision,” Tony says. “It wasn’t a real decision, but the New Year and everyone around you talking about it. So you thought you could try something. Some things that could use change, but you didn’t set goals that you had to meet anyway.”
For more success on goal setting, Tony Robbins suggests doing the following:
1. Remember: The hunt is just as important as the goal
Take as an example that you want to earn €100,000 for your new business in 2020. Then try not to focus too much on that number, but think about why you want to reach that amount and how you’re going to achieve it.
“The idea behind a goal is not achieving it,” says Robbins. “The idea behind a goal is who you become by chasing it.”
If you grow while achieving your goal, then it’s a success.
2. Set a goal with the right scale in mind
People often set the bar far too high for their good intentions. “Most of us overestimate what they can do in a year and they underestimate what they can achieve in ten or twenty years,” explains Robbins.
Try to set goals you can reasonably achieve within a year. If it’s difficult to complete within that time, it can easily overwhelm you. As a result, there’s a higher chance that you’d give up on it.
If your goal takes several years, decide how many of them you want to achieve this year. After that, you can continue to build.
3. Focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want.
One of the biggest mistakes people make when setting goals is to focus on what they don’t really want. They say I’m fat, so I want to lose 20 pounds, but they should approach it the other way around: I want to be healthy and fit, and that’s why I want to lose so much weight that a healthy BMI.
Do you find it difficult to determine what the core of your goal is? Robbins gives this simple advice, “Do something physical.”
“You’re trying to get depressed when you let your head and shoulders hang, talk slowly and think about the things you’re afraid of. But if you go for a nice run, you can concentrate on what you want to be and become what you want to be.”
Because of fear, people often think about what they don’t want, instead of what they do want. Try to reason the other way around, so that you don’t run away from your fear, but straight away.
4. Don’t stop when you have reached your goal
It’s simple: Always set new goals
“Thousands have achieved wonderful goals,” says Robbins, “and then they thought, is this all there is? I’ve worked so hard for this, and it’s not even what I thought it would be. That’s success without satisfaction and the worst kind of failure.”
Take the example above. Say you’ve earned that €100,000 from your business. Your ego is caressed, and you’re full of adrenaline that you’ve achieved your goal. And then what? Without a new goal to strive for, your days are empty, and you feel lost.
“The moment you reach your goal, or it’s within reach, you need to start thinking about the following goals,” says Robbins, or your energy level will go down.”
5. Don’t be afraid not to reach your goals
Achieving your goals is not the most important thing, but the person you become by pursuing your goals is the real result.
“What makes us feel good is progress, is growth is liveliness,” says the coach. “We grow, or we die. That’s what life is.”
So remember that growth looks different for different people. Try to discover what form your growth takes and which growth would be most valuable to you. That is the direction you want to go in.
“So you don’t just want to grow,” he says, “but you want to grow to have a great life your way: A life that makes you happy.”